When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong: The Steve McNair/Sahel Kazemi Story

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When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong: The Steve McNair/Sahel Kazemi Story

The Dave Chappelle show can tell you a lot about life. One of the skits that should be revered as gospel is "When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong" with Brenda Johnson.  It is a metaphor for all that happened in the Steve McNair/Sahel Kazemi murder/suicide. (alleged at this point, but safe to assume...)

http://www.comedycentral.com/videos/index.jhtml?videoId=11915&title=when-keeping-it-real-goes-wrong

Initially, the working title was "Pimpin ain't easy...The tragic story of Steve McNair," but watching Brenda Johnson again made me change the title...(you can see that I was on a Chappelle kick) 

I know Black People got me thinking, "Is Pimping Easy?" According to who you listen to, you will get different answers. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20060927102854AAr8XGu

While the answer can be both, the Steve McNair tragedy proves that pimping ain't easy. When you are trying to balance a business, a family man persona to the media and fans and pimp, something has to give. Usually is it the family first, as happened in this situation.  The Associated Press is reporting that Mechelle McNair had zero clue that Steve was carrying on an affair behind her back.

NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP) — An associate said Wednesday that the wife of ex-NFL quarterback Steve McNair didn't know about Sahel Kazemi before the 20-year-old woman was found dead alongside her husband on the Fourth of July.

McNair, 36, was shot four times in what the medical examiner has said is likely a murder-suicide, though police haven't confirmed that Kazemi was responsible.

Mike Mu, who has worked with McNair's charitable foundation for years, said Mechelle McNair "didn't know who this girl is."

Mechelle McNair, who has not spoken publicly since the shooting, has been described by people close to her as being very upset and distraught. Agent Bus Cook said McNair's wife was "in and out" of it in the hours after the shooting.

Now, not to sound callous, but when done correctly, the spouse or supposed loved one is the last to know about these things. To hide the affair had to be a lot of work and strain on Steve McNair. History has to count of something and some of the reason behind the motive might have been that things were not progressing fast enough for Sahel Kazemi.

First, we have the initial reports that the gun was hers, purchased on Thursday, the same day that she was popped for DUI.  Second, we have a story in the Seattle Times that the facts all line up to a murder/suicide.

NASHVILLE, Tenn. — Tennessee's state medical examiner said Tuesday that investigators have been hesitant to conclude Steve McNair's girlfriend killed the former quarterback and herself because she didn't appear to have a motive. But he added that murder-suicide is the most likely scenario.

After the couple was discovered shot to death Saturday, police were quick to label McNair's death a homicide. McNair, 36, had been shot twice in the head and twice in the chest.

Meanwhile, 20-year-old Sahel Kazemi was dead from a single gunshot to the head. Under her body was a gun police say she purchased Thursday.

Investigators were waiting on ballistics tests on the weapon before issuing a ruling on Kazemi's death, which medical examiner Bruce Levy said could come in the next few days.

Kazemi's gun purchase, revealed Monday, is a strong indication she was responsible, Levy said.

Let me help with the motive, the one thing that seems to be slowing up the case.  Steve McNair is a successful community and national icon that took an interest in a 19-20 year old young woman. He took her on vacations and bought her an Escalade. She told people that she was in love and that Steve was going to divorce his wife.

Then, the dream starts to die, piece by piece.  On LiveSteez, today they write that Steve stood her up in Las Vegas.

As days pass, details of the murder/suicide of the former Tennessee Titan quarterback, Steve McNair, and his mistress Sahel Kazemi, continue to surface. The latest speculation is, McNair seemed to have wanted to pull away from the affair.

Just two weeks ago, Kazemi and McNair planned a trip to Las Vegas. Kazemi, 20, flew from Tennessee to Nevada to meet  McNair, but he never arrived, reports Florida Times Union.

Soheyla Kazemi, sister of McNair's mistress, said she was concerned about the age difference between her sister and the former quarterback but "she never listened to nobody."

As you know, what happens in Vegas, is supposed to stay in Vegas. But, what happens if that time never happens?  Anger and resentment start to build. The anger continues later when you are out drinking with Steve (illegally, might I add since the drinking age is 21 in the U.S.) and he asks you to drive.

You get pulled over and arrested for DUI. Now, I am not sure if you really were smoking marijuana, but for some inexplicable reason, you feel the need to tell the police officer that you were doing that. Forgive me for getting off topic, but why cop to something that is illegal to try to get out of something that is illegal too?  Its called Driving under the Influence....which includes driving under the influence of weed, or other drugs. I went to FindLaw to research the law in Tennessee.

Code Section 39-17-401, et seq.
Possession Possession or casual exchange of: Less than .5 oz.: Class A misdemeanor and attendance at drug offender school and minimum $250 fine; Casual exchange to a minor from an adult 2 yrs. his senior and adult knows minor is a minor: felony; Subsequent offense: $500 minimum; Third: $750 minimum; Two or more prior convictions, then Class E felony; 20 plants to 99 plants: Class C felony, fined up to $100,000.

So, according to the law, you were in trouble regardless.  After watching Steve drive off in a taxi, and you in a black and white, you start to stew. You see your carefully planned future going down the drain. Even though he comes to bail you out, see feel some distance in his behavior towards you.

Time passes. You get antsy. Steve hasn't called you back and you begin to worry that he is going to stay with his wife and not go through the divorce. Sahel thought that they were going to get married. The NY Post explains the Adulterer's Playbook, used by many men and women.  Here, they give the way that Steve tailored it to his liking.

The two met at a local Dave & Buster's restaurant—where Kazemi worked and McNair often took his family.

"He started to talk to her a little," Salmani said. "They exchanged phone numbers and started dating from there.

"That's why she was like, 'OK, now you're divorcing. We can date,' " Salmani said.

Aaron said yesterday that McNair and Kazemi had had a "dating relationship" for months.

Kazemi had been arrested Thursday night for allegedly driving intoxicated in Nashville. She was pulled over in a 2007 Cadillac Escalade registered to her and McNair, who also was in the SUV.

He bailed out Kazemi—who had told cops she was high, not drunk.

She was mad and there is proof of that. A neighbor of Sahel tells the Post that the last time she was seen, she was storming off in the Escalade.

One of Kazemi's neighbors told The Post that McNair "wasn't hiding" his relationship with the petite beauty, who openly called him her "boyfriend."

She said Kazemi occasionally would be dropped off at her residence at 3 a.m. by a limo. Debra Bacher, who moved into the apartment directly below Kazemi's on Wednesday, said, "I saw her Thursday night when she left out of here between 9 and 10 [o'clock]. It's like she was mad, and she just slammed off in that Escalade."

Bacher said she never again saw the Escalade, which cops said was sitting outside McNair's condo when he got home early Saturday.

Police said they know that before he arrived home that morning, he had visited two local watering holes: the Blue Moon Lagoon and Loser's Bar and Grill.

Clearly, Steve needed some time to think. He might have ducked some of her calls, leading to the frustration that she might have felt. The gun was a way to keep them together. It probably was an impulse buy. You do have to be rather cold blooded or really emotionally wounded to put two in the dome and two in the chest to anyone who is not directly attacking you. When he finally went back to the condo after a night of drinking with friends, there was hell to pay. (Unfortunately he literally had to pay)

The reason why people have affairs in the first place is to escape their current situation.  The fantasy in the other relationship makes the grass seem greener on the other side.  For Steve McNair, it was green enough for him to make the decision to step outside his marital bounds.  But, when faced with grief from another source, you can see why he might have wanted to break it off. Hell, if I am going to get yelled at, why not get it at home?

Breaking up is hard to do;  in this case, it might have cost Steve McNair his life.

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