Michael Oher's Good Samaritan: Damned If You Do or Damned If You Don't

Honor Warren Wells TheTorch@dbintayaelSenior Writer IIJanuary 5, 2010

OWINGS MILLS, MARYLAND - MAY 8: Offensive lineman Michael Oher #74 of the Baltimore Ravens seen during minicamp at the practice facility on May 8, 2009 in Owings Mills, Maryland. (Photo by Ned Dishman/Getty Images)
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Movies about people who rise above their circumstances and get an opportunity to live the American dream are the type I usually enjoy.

"The Blind Side" was an interesting movie which I viewed with my mother and a few other family members. The only words that may have surprised some folks were in the reference to "cutting off" his p-n-s, which certainly made a point to warn the movie version of Oher about getting a woman pregnant.

The only thing about that line in the movie is we all know it takes "two to tango."

One review that I read mentioned that the storyline stayed on the surface, and did not delve deeply into some of the issues in Oher's life.

Actually, telling too much would, in my opinion, be too heavy for the audience that the movie maker targeted. Perhaps the writers and director wanted to stay at the center of the problems surrounding Oher's early life, rather than producing a "tear-jerker" with all of the depressing details of homelessness, abandonment, crack, and other near tragedies or dilemmas.

One thing is certain: if there were more families who would invite people in need into their homes (or favorite program) or support the needs of many young people (and older ones, too) America would, indeed, be a better place. And, the paradox in America is that if you do help people, in the way the "Samaritan family" helped Oher, someone, somewhere, may be critical of your efforts. Yes, in America, you can be damned if you do, and damned if you don't help people in a prolonged or sustained way.

Michael Oher is very fortunate. He crossed trails with a family who served as his "good Samaritan." He was drafted into the NFl in April 2009, and already he is getting attention from at least two worlds: the fans of movies and the fans of the NFL.

I found another scene rather interesting since I did teach in Harlem, New York between 1968 and 1971. I admit that while doing so, I was cautious about "mouthing off" to some of those students who were former heroine addicts, being treated with methadone while attending the Urban Center in Manhattan.

During my teaching experience in the Old Theresa Hotel, located at the corner of 125th Street and Seventh Avenue, I survived the experience with no incidents, although I also remember that there was a policeman at the elevator at each level or floor of the old building. You know what that means.

Would I have talked smart, bragging about "packing a pistol" to those students back in 1968? No, no, no.

Some of those guys and gals were so tough that they would have knocked me down, grabbed my purse, and maybe even "pistol whipped" me for mouthing off at them, in those days in Harlem.

I was (or perceived myself to be) a brave young woman, but I learned wisdom from men in my family. As one would say, "Some stuff, you down it and get from around it!"

So, I felt that scene in which Oher's mother made reference to a pistol was a bit unrealistic. The scene was not believable to me, but maybe I know too much about working, teaching, or passing through the "hood."

I can not survey the viewers of the movie, but I just believe that if some of those hardcore dropouts and drug users see the movie, they just might laugh out loud in the theatre when they see that particular scene.

I also strongly suggest that other women in the social status of Oher's good Samaritan be careful and do not become copycats of certain scenes in the movie.

I have always been told to be "wise as a serpent and as harmless as a dove." It just makes sense to not "mouth off" in certain neighborhoods.

Overall, I thought that there is a lesson to be learned. One lesson is that there are good people who really have a heart for others who are not in their socio-economic or social standing.

I also want to emphasize that the real Michael Oher has a "gentle giant" look on his face. The eyes of a man tell a story. He, as shown in some pictures, has the face of a kind and gentle man, and the body of a powerful man. Yes, he is perceived as a gentle giant at his weight and height.

I and others who viewed the movie with me wish the best for Michael Oher and his siblings. We wish the best for his family of the past and the present.

Now, his life has a brighter side. So, I do wonder what is happening to the siblings who his mother brought into the world.

Let's wait and see. Let's hope that all of them have a happy ending to their life story and journey.

Michael Oher | #74 | OT

Baltimore Ravens | Official Team Site

Height: 6-4   Weight: 310   Age: 23

Born: 5/28/1986 Memphis , TN

College: Mississippi

Experience: Rookie

High School: Briarcrest Christian School [Memphis, TN]