Oklahoma Football: Why Bob Stoops Is Better Than Urban Meyer

Luke McConnellCorrespondent IDecember 12, 2010

Urban Meyer and Bob Stoops shake hands before the 2008 BCS National Championship game.
Urban Meyer and Bob Stoops shake hands before the 2008 BCS National Championship game.Doug Benc/Getty Images

Don't get me wrong, I totally respect Urban Meyer as a football coach and as a man.  

The things he has been able to accomplish at Florida over the past few seasons have been more than impressive and he is deserving of every bit of recognition he receives.  It's going to be disappointing to see him leave the coaching ranks, at least for awhile.

My bet is that Meyer will be back coaching again at some point.  He's a spring chick compared to a lot of coaches out there and after some time away, he'll be wanting to come back for sure.

While I highly respect Urban Meyer, I don't view his resignation as necessary.  I think it's his own fault, personally.

Meyer cited reasons of being a better husband and father as the motivation behind his resignation.  Those are admirable reasons, but many coaches across the country have proven that you don't have to resign to be a good husband and father.  

Oklahoma's Bob Stoops is one of those coaches.  

His wife, Carol, is a national sales director for Mary Kay beauty products and they have three children: one girl, Mackenzie, and twin boys, Drake and Isaac.  

I'm sure that Bob Stoops' kids are involved in things at school or play sports, but you don't hear him complaining that he misses too many of their activities or is missing out on seeing them grow up.

Granted, Meyer's children are a bit older than Stoops' and his mentality may change the older they get and the more involved they get with sports and other activities, but I think the concept remains the same.   

You don't hear of Stoops staying at the office until three a.m. or even spending the night there.  Meyer admitted as much for himself last year when he retired for health concerns and then returned to coaching a day later.  

Coaching is a hard profession, especially when you're a head coach of a prestigious football program.  It's important for you as a person and for your family that you balance your time wisely between your job and your life.  

Meyer didn't do that.  I understand that coaching takes a lot of time, but you're kidding yourself if it is NECESSARY to work as hard as Meyer worked over the past few years.

It's possible to have a healthy home life and do a great job of coaching and not feel like you're neglecting one or the other.  Many coaches have found that balance and they've found it by putting their family first.

I interviewed OU women's basketball coach Sherri Coale last week and she could only talk for five minutes after practice because she had to get to one of her children's functions.

Does she even come close to spending the amount of time working on the OU women's basketball program as Meyer did on the Florida football program?  Heck no!  But she puts her family first and that helps her maintain a balance.

Meyer's resignation isn't the fault of his children for growing up or being involved.  It's his own for not maintaining a healthy balance of family first, job second.  His job became his life and for him to get out of that, he had to quit.  It's a darn shame that he lost that perspective, but he has it back now.  

Hopefully we will see him back on the sidelines sometime in the future.