For Lamar Odom, Team Has Always Mattered More Than Anything, Even Himself

Kevin Ding@@KevinDingNBA Senior WriterOctober 14, 2015

CLEVELAND, OH - MARCH 1:  A close up shot of Lamar Odom #7 of the Los Angeles Clippers during the game against the Cleveland Cavaliers at The Quicken Loans Arena on March 1, 2013 in Cleveland, Ohio. NOTE TO USER: User expressly acknowledges and agrees that, by downloading and/or using this Photograph, user is consenting to the terms and conditions of the Getty Images License Agreement. Mandatory Copyright Notice: Copyright 2013 NBAE (Photo by David Liam Kyle/NBAE via Getty Images)
David Liam Kyle/Getty Images

We spend a lot of time making sports more important than they really are. When we look at the life study that is Lamar Odom, we see the true value of athletic competition:

The relationships that enrich us.

The diversion that brings us relief.

The competition that motivates us.

The goals so worthwhile to hold, whether they are met or missed.

Odom is an example of how sports help us with life. He has always been at his best in basketball—bringing together a locker room with charm and honest interest in others, performing on the court with an unselfish skill set that delivers teammates whatever they need at any given time.

He was a team guy who has had an awful lot of trouble as an individual.

One can only imagine how difficult it has been for Odom in the year and three months since he was waived for not meeting the New York Knicks' standard of professionalism after Phil Jackson had given him an NBA lifeline.

Odom is now hospitalized after being found unconscious at a Nevada brothel. TMZ is reporting that he is in a coma.

For context: At 35, Odom is the same age as Pau Gasol, who just started the last NBA All-Star Game. He's younger than Kobe Bryant, 37, who remains the Los Angeles Lakers' leading man.

LOS ANGELES - NOVEMBER 2:  Lamar Odom #7, Ron Artest #15, Pau Gasol #16, Kobe Bryant #24, and Derek Fisher #2 of the Los Angeles Lakers huddle together before their game against the Memphis Grizzlies at Staples Center on November 2, 2010 in Los Angeles, C
Andrew D. Bernstein/Getty Images

Odom and Gasol were the special forces that keyed the Lakers' NBA championships in 2009 and '10 for Bryant and Jackson. As good as he was on the court, usually finishing games instead of Andrew Bynum, Odom was invaluable as a connector behind the scenes.

You get a lot of talk from guys. Odom, though, truly cared about the team.

It offended him to the core when someone punked his team. He shrugged and laughed when someone punked him.

Odom sat with his chair facing into his Staples Center locker after one game in March 2010, answering media questions while symbolically turning his back on his teammates. That's how disgusted Odom was by how "soft" his defending champion team had become—and Odom's sharp words made clear how determined he was to fix it.

The Lakers repeated as NBA champions three months later.

Now, with some greater perspective, it makes sense that Odom cherished his team so dearly. Having a team gave his existence much more direction, order and purpose than it does even the average player who savors it.

Odom met Khloe Kardashian at a party for basketball teammate Ron Artest, and when he married her in 2009 it was his basketball family that was standing at his side. Giving the best-man speech was Jerry DeGregorio, Odom's basketball coach in high school, college and the NBA. One groomsman was Robbie Davis, Odom's personal trainer for basketball. Another was Jeff Schwartz, Odom's basketball agent.

LOS ANGELES, CA - JUNE 21:  Lamar Odom #7 of the Los Angeles Lakers and his wife Khloe Kardashian speak to the media following the Los Angeles Lakers Championship Parade on June 21, 2010 in Los Angeles, California. NOTE TO USER: User expressly acknowledge
Andrew D. Bernstein/Getty Images

In recent years, when basketball ended, Odom lost touch with many of the teammates he helped along the way. Also lost were some of his easiest, most important bonds that came from being part of a team.

Odom's broad shoulders have been shaken by death so often, and where he lies now is shocking, but not surprising to anyone who has followed his life story.

This is a boy who lost his mother when he was 12 years old and a man who lost his son when he was 6 ½ months old. Along with "Cathy" and "Jayden," Odom would write "Grandma" on his game sneakers to remember his other painful loss.   

Four years ago, Odom was a passenger in a car crash that killed a 15-year-old boy. Four months ago, childhood friend Jamie Sangouthai, also a best man at Odom's 2009 wedding, died in a drug-related accident.

Odom has previously acknowledged how his experience with tragedy has profoundly affected him—sometimes pushing him toward danger instead of away from it.

Michael Conroy/Associated Press

But the Odom we came to know in the NBA was at his best when he had others who leaned on him, when there were others he wanted to please.

A people-person who truly put the people ahead of his person.

It's a reminder of how having the community of sports around you is a wonderful, protective, meaningful thing.

Kevin Ding is an NBA senior writer for Bleacher Report. Follow him on Twitter, @KevinDing.

Related

    KD Won't Hold Grudge into FA

    NBA logo
    NBA

    KD Won't Hold Grudge into FA

    Paul Kasabian
    via Bleacher Report

    Tap Here to Buy Capital One's The Match

    NBA logo
    NBA

    Tap Here to Buy Capital One's The Match

    via B/R Live

    Blazers Ready to Join West Elite

    NBA logo
    NBA

    Blazers Ready to Join West Elite

    Adam Wells
    via Bleacher Report

    Elite Defense Can Propel Raptors to NBA Championship Run

    NBA logo
    NBA

    Elite Defense Can Propel Raptors to NBA Championship Run

    Paul Kasabian
    via Bleacher Report