One of the major life lessons we teach our kids as they grow older is to get both sides of the story before making a decision.
We live by this rule because we don't want to look like fools when the real truth comes out.
When the truth does come out, it is harder to convince someone if they already have a preconceived notion of what they think the truth really is; it's called jumping to conclusions.
It is funny to me that this same life lessons we teach our kids, we as adults could care less about.
I don't usually go running to defend all of my friends that get slammed by the media but knowing what I know about him, I would be doing a friend an injustice if I didn't say anything. I met Randy Moss in 2004, one year before he came to the Raiders.
At first, I didn't know what to think of him because he is not very personal to people he doesn't know. After he came to the Raiders, I knew him a lot better but never observed him with other players in the locker room.
When Moss first gets to a team, he goes around the locker room to meet every player, to get a feel for the team and to see who is in the locker room to win or who is just playing the part.
In case you haven't noticed, Randy Moss is an alpha male that will expose any weak links on his team, coaches and players alike. This is where Moss runs into trouble.
Coaches have to work with all the players on the team, no matter where their heart is. Randy Moss will not tolerate a teammate or coach that isn't there to give it their all.
Coaches want players to play their part on a team and just be a player. Moss goes above and beyond the role of a player and has a special knowledge of the game of football and everyone on his team knows that. He knows how to win and his opinion carries a ton of weight in the locker room with the players.
Coaches do not like when a player has more power than they do, and most coaches will take it personally, which is the NFL's cardinal rule: Don't take anything personal—it's just business.
I'm not going to start talking about all the money that Randy Moss donates or all the people he helps because that is not what we are here to talk about.
We are here to talk about how coaches get emotionally involved to the point that coaches cannot do what is best for a team.
I sound like a broken record every time I say this but let me say it once again: The NFL is a business, not a social group.
Winning games is and always will be the main focus of the NFL, so when you hear a coach like Minnesota's Brad Childress or the Redskins' Mike Shanahan make up reasons to waive players, it really makes them sound like they have no control over that team.
Now if a coach really thinks that a player is not the right fit for a team, he would never have a problem coming out and telling the player or the media the truth about the situation. In Moss' case, Childress has changed his story three times in two days.
I ask you, the fan—does that sound like a person that is in control or telling the truth?
I am not justifying Moss' actions. I think he could have handled the situations a little better. But it is nice to hear retired players like Tedy Bruschi speaking on subjects like this because they have inside knowledge on the game of football.
There has been a totally different response between the analysts that have played the game and the ones that have not. Every player knows that there is more than meets the eye when incidents like this arise.
I feel that it is important that the fans get both sides of the story before you condemn players.
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