I remember once when I was a little kid, Santa Claus brought me a really cool football. It was black and gold, and had the Steelers logo on the side of it. I had never seen one like it. I thought the elves made it especially for me.
One day, I took it to school so we could play football at recess. During the excitement to get outside, I hurried along with a bunch of other kids to get to the open field for kick off.
We were playing with the ball, and when recess was over, Shawn, a kid I really didn't get along with, took my football inside. He swore that it was his, I swore that it was mine.
Our parents were called in after school. Shawn said it was his, and I immediately called him a liar. It had to be my football, because there were not any other like it.
Turns out, Shawn got the exact same football for Christmas that I did, and I had left mine on the playground.
My mom looked at me and told me, I should never say anything bad, especially when I don't know all the facts.
Looking at the Ben Roethlisberger situation, don't you think that maybe, just maybe we should look at the facts, before we start claiming Ben did something wrong?
The first incident that everyone seems to bring up is Ben's motorcycle accident. We hear how foolish Ben was for not wearing a helmet. How he needs to take better care of himself. He is the quarterback of the Pittsburgh Steelers; he does not need to be foolish like that.
Well, guess what? The accident was not the fault of Ben Roethlisberger, as the other person involved was given the ticket.
Well, Ben should have been wearing a helmet, it was against the law. True, I have to give you that. If someone is doing something that is obviously dangerous, they should be more careful.
Answer me this quick question, how often do you speed while driving? I am not talking about driving 75 MPH in a 30 MPH zone. I am talking about driving 75 MPH is a 70 MPH zone?
Me? I do it all the time. Does that mean I am reckless? Does it mean that I don't care what happens? Or does it mean that I drive the way that I drive?
I have been in five car accidents my entire life. In one of those, I was sitting still in the median, and the other four, I was rear ended, while I was stopped at traffic lights.
Did my driving have anything to do with me being in those accidents? That does not mean that I deserved it, as they were all other peoples faults.
Now, lets take a look at the first sexual misconduct situation that Ben Roethlisberger found himself in. These are the facts we know.
One year, after the alleged attack, the accuser filed a civil law suit against Ben Roethlisberger. There were no criminal charges. There was no evidence. It was simply her word against his.
The story that Andrea McNulty gave was that Ben had her come to the room to have her fix his TV. Is there a reason he did not call maintenance, to have them do it? Did she have some type of TV Repair degree, that would allow her the advantage over the men that actually did the maintenance?
When this story first broke, the people here at Bleacher Report were quick to defend Roethlisberger, and with good cause. Everything this accuser did was against what most people in her position would do.
In addition to not filing any criminal complaint, so no evidence could be collected.
Not only that, one of the people that analyze peoples body language, to tell if they are telling the truth, stated that Roethlisberger was being honest when he said that there was nothing that happened that was not agreed upon by both parties.
And for those of you that don't believe what these body language experts say, they are more accurate than lie detectors.
The strange thing that gets me about these first accusations, there was no one saying Roethlisberger did anything wrong. There was no, "well, why was Ben having sex with this woman?" There was no, "Ben did something immoral, so I won't be wearing his jersey anymore".
Almost everyone I spoke with stated that their opinion of Ben Roethlisberger had not changed.
Now, with these latest charges, everyone seems to be taking a different stance.
This is what we know to this point.
Ben has been accused of some type of sexual misconduct. Accused. No evidence had been reported to this point. None.
Before we burn Ben at the stake, I would like all of the people that are ready to convict to answer a few questions.
Are you mad that Ben had some type of sexual contact with this woman? Or are you mad because they did it in the bathroom? Would it be different if they had gone back to his house?
Are you mad at Ben because he was going to fool around with a 20 year old girl? Then why was it okay that he admitted to sexual relations with an older woman?
If you no longer support Ben Roethlisberger because he was getting drunk, why didn't you come out like this when Santonio Holmes got caught smoking marijuana?
For those of you that have already passed judgement on Roethlisberger, I wonder why these same judgements have not happened to other people that have also done questionable things in their past.
And for those of you that want to see Roethlisberger fry because of the things that some people think he did, just remember, don't accuse someone, without knowing all the facts.