For months since Tiger Woods was exposed as a cheap womanizer, a cheater, a liar, and a cornball (what guy uses the word 'naughty'), I thought about professional athletes and the drama that always seems to surround them. The Tiger Woods scandal is really no different than any other athlete who's sheltered from real-world consequences and accountability.
No one can argue that what a person constantly hears becomes their reality. So if all you hear is, "you're the greatest," "you're the best," "you're untouchable" and people act like it, then you start to believe it. We have made a person's ability to put a ball in a hole or in a confined space synonymous with God.
So, yeah, we have helped to create monsters. So to all the monsters out there and those in the making, here are a Jersey Girl's four good life rules that will help you avoid scandal. www.jerseygirlsports.com
This is a rule the average man should live by. The pretty cocktail waitress, the flirty flight attendant, and the sexy stripper will be detrimental to your career, family, and image. It doesn't matter if you're married or single. Dating and "flinging" below your current status is setup for a downfall.
Why? Because when you get exposed (and you will) she gets instant fame! She has nothing to lose by exposing all your dirty secrets. As a matter of fact, the more she exposes the more she gets.
Sure, she may be called a whore, but she may get a reality show out the deal and MANY more wealthy men will be ready to take her. IF you're going to be "out there" get the woman with as much to lose as you. You're chances of getting exposed are limited and women keep secrets better than men.
Don't believe me?
Take a look at Barbara Walters. She had a long time affair with a black Senator. We didn't even know about it until 2008! Why? They both had too much at stake. He had a family and a political career. She had her career and image. When it comes to sex and women—more money equals more problems and less power.
Before you reject this rule, try to understand where I'm coming from. The issue is being liked vs. being respected. Look at Charles Barkley. For all his skills in basketball, he was not the kind of athlete you wanted your kids to look up to.
He spit on people, cussed—and was just not what American society felt a "star" athlete should be. Barkley, in response, said, "You're right! Just because I play basketball does not mean I should raise your kids." He reminded us that a being a great athlete was not synonymous with being a great person.
Now, don't get me wrong, I do believe that "to whom much is given, much is required," but rejecting the "deity" that society puts on you doesn't make you less accountable for your actions, but it does cut down the shock and awe the media/society displays when you show your human side.
Admit your faults. Remind everyone you're human. You may not be liked by as many people as you were before, but you will be respected. Heck, you might get a T-Mobile or Taco Bell commercial out of it!
Being a professional athlete is not like it was in the '80s and '90s even. Back then (which is really not that long ago) we EXPECTED professional athletes to live the "American Dream." That meant when you "made it", we expected you would soon be married and have beautiful children.
The IMAGE was VERY important to Americans and to athletes' careers. Now, not so much. Now, being a professional athlete is more like being a rock star or a celebrity.
Athletes now have reality shows, clothing lines, songs, videos and television shows. Marriage is no longer a requirement for the image, so DON'T GET MARRIED until you've matured enough to live up to the requirements. As much as American society changes—we STILL value the tenants of marriage, and we get disgusted when they're violated.
Does anybody believe Chad Johnson, aka "Ochocinco" would be faithful to a woman right now: Heck no! He's all about his image right now. Any woman he's with is just the "girl right now" not the "right girl." And guess what? We're O.K. with that.
In a perfect world you'd get all the television exposure for your great games and astonishing athleticism and when the game was over, the spotlight would end.
You, however, live in the REAL world, and when millions upon millions of dollars are thrown at you and you cross over into becoming a celebrity you have to expect everything that comes with it—that means the media. Please don't misunderstand me.
I am totally for a person's right to privacy, but if you want to claim that—claim it from the beginning. Don't open the door to your life to the media when you're at your best then try to close the door when you're at your worst. It's a door that swings both ways.
When you're at your worst, the best thing to do is to put the fire out. Admit your mistakes. Apologize: for real. Take responsibility for what you've done (sex/drug/alcohol rehab is so cliché--so "'90s". We're not buying it), have a real press conference and get in a good interview with Oprah, Barbara Walters, Katie Couric or Diane Sawyer. Then be done with it. Move on.
You can't escape the media, but you can control your response to it. If you add this with rule No. 2, you'll be back in no time! Here's a secret: outside of violence to children and other disgusting crimes, most Americans will forgive a sincere person with an honest apology.