For those that don't know, Steve Phillips the former Mets GM and current ESPN analysis has been caught in a love affair with an ESPN employee. Well maybe not caught, perhaps outed is a better phrase. His mistress went public with the affair and not just to the Phillips' family, but she felt the need to inform the New York Post in an exclusive deal.

Normally we would not remark on a story such as this as I try to respect the privacy of personal lives and this blog is about sports, not personal lives (unless it's a really positive story). Yet, this is the exception to that practice, as I am a divorce kid, and I know what it does to a family along with the major factor for my disgust which is the manner in which this was handled.

While my disgust should be directed at Steve Phillips, I find myself harboring just as much, if not more, towards his mistress for the way she has handled everything. There is something inherently wrong in selling a story like this to a newspaper. There are worse things, but it does not change how horrible the situation is that she has helped create.

If you haven't read the letter she sent to Mrs. Philips, and then decided to share with the New York Post , read it before you continue.


Look, Ice Queen, it's bad enough that you engaged in an affair with a man that you knew was married, but it's worse when you write a vengeful letter to that man's wife and send it to a newspaper.

Let's just break this down.

I'm not just some random girl he had sex with in parking lots.

That's really f***ing classy right there. Written like a true idiot. Is this a common occurrence? Have there been multiple times in your life where you've just gotten your f**k on with random dudes in parking lots?

I care about him a lot and I've been asking him to come clean to you about everything, from when we first slept together in St. Louis in his hotel suite (where he assured me I wouldn't have to worry about getting pregnant since his vasectomy)

This is called the too much information portion of this letter. First, you don't need to inform the spouse about when you first slept together, perhaps when it started, but not in these terms. This just seems like an intentional jab at the wife.

Also, the part in parenthesis is completely unneeded, although it appears pretty obvious from this sentence that you were not intending for Mrs. Phillips to be the only reader. The plan to go public was there from the start. This sentence was written to embarrass him.

Mrs. Phillips already knows he had vasectomy, so you're either aiming to shame him or you missed the English class where they explain how to leave out unnecessary information.

Then comes the section where she explains the conversations that they engaged in about Steve's kids and their relationships with each other. I get that you're trying to illustrate that your relationship was more than just f***ing, but given that this letter was intended to go public, it really could have been left out.

Why bring the children into this? They're innocent bystanders, or better yet, why take a private matter public? Oh that's right, you're a stupid 22 year old girl who is engaging in an extramarital affair with a man on TV! You've really made it! Time to cash in for your only shot at 15 minutes of fame!

I was raised Catholic too and while I know our faith dissuades divorce, it also respects it with regards to infidelity because people should have the opportunity to be with whomever makes them happy and can give them what they need.

I am a Catholic who is also a theology student. Either she has a really liberal interpretation of Catholic doctrine or she's a f***ing idiot. I'm going with the latter. God wants you to enjoy life, but not be a f***ing adulterous ass in the process while using "I just want to be happy!" as the backbone of your argument.

...to top it off Steve has a big birthmark on his crotch right above his penis and one on his left inner thigh, so you know I'm not being fake.

This was done to embarrass Steve Phillips. I get why it was done, but again, she intended for this to go public.

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